Mystic Empath – Chapter 06 (v)

5. Schedules and organizing

Empaths generally need to live moment to moment in the sense that you constantly need to navigate your own fluctuating moods and feelings and those from the outside world. You need more time to process; being rushed or too busy can lead to overwhelm and frustration.

One of the things you can do is to focus on practical ways for organizing your daily schedule. Pay more attention to the things that are within your control and practice planning ahead; follow a routine and make aspects of your life more predictable.

That way, when the fluctuations do arise, you are better equipped to manage things.

Here are some ideas for organizing your life:

1. Planning as a ritual

Planning the day ahead or the week can be turned into a fun and beautiful ritual. Follow the steps below for an example of how to do this.

Steps:

  • Set aside 5 to 10 minutes for planning each day/week depending on what you need.
  • Make yourself a cup of tea — try fresh ginger and lemon.
  • Light a candle to mark out the ritual space of planning.
  • Rest your focus on the candle for a moment to relax and center.
  • Have an aesthetically pleasing journal or calendar to work in, or app you really like, in order to make the process more luxurious.
  • The steps above are things that appeal to the subconscious mind and assist in rewiring your system around planning.
  • Contemplate what you need to plan, how detailed you want to be, and what you can plan ahead on in order to reduce stress and know what to expect.
  • Let yourself know if you have too many things on your list, then start editing or spacing things out if possible.
  • Sometimes, just one or two main tasks a day is enough, and everything else will just fall into place.
  • Keep playing around with the ritual and see if making lists, writing things down, or planning ahead assist you in some way.
  • Cross things off as you go or have a way to demonstrate to your subconscious mind that you have completed something challenging.
  • Always do what works best for you.

2. Arrive early

Getting to places at a certain time can cause a lot of stress for an empath. When you have an event that could potentially be stress-inducing, consider getting there early. Having time to relax and breath can help reduce stress and anxiety around the event.

Steps:

  • Plan to leave your house at least 10 minutes earlier than you normally would; set an alarm on your phone if you need to.
  • You might hit traffic or your bus is running late; this adds undue stress and tension.
  • Then, with the extra 10 minutes, you can do some deep breathing, meditation, scrolling through phone, or another activity that allows you a moment of peace before an event or scheduled activity.

3. Feeling obligated and changing your mind

You can change your mind, and you will. Humans grow and change. Your needs and desires will change. Often, you do things you don’t want to do for the sake of others. So be more honest with yourself and don’t convince yourself that you have to do something because others have expectations for you.

Here are some steps you can take to embrace a flexible yet firm mindset:

  • If you commit to something today, you can change your mind later.
  • Allow your mood to shift naturally and be genuine with yourself.
  • Say “no” if you really are not feeling up for something that you can get out of.
  • Approach your obligations from a blending of your intuition and intellect. Intuition draws on your gut instincts and your feelings while an intellectual approach draws on reason and objectivity.
  • Practice releasing guilt from having changed your mind.
  • Know that you are valid and have the right to self-determine what you can and cannot handle or choose not to do.